Let me begin this post with the fact that I think rape is wrong, no means no, and we should not blame victims of rape. You are right, a woman should have the right to go to a man’s hotel room, butt naked, at 3 am in the morning, to talk and SHOULD have be able to go home in one piece. As a matter of fact she should be able to walk naked through that room and no one should assume that she is there for sex. There, I’ve gotten that out of the way. La La land requirements fulfilled, now to the reality of LIFE.
Let me also say that somewhere in these sordid tales, I believe some rape did occur, but I also believe there were some willing participants as well. I believe it because I heard the “Spanish Fly” skit, but I also heard a lot of people laughing and clapping. Because the skit was recorded in 1969, during an era of free love, I assume that putting drugs in drinks was common practice for the time period. Am I saying everyone did it? No, but I am saying that some people did it and it was part of the celebrity, Hollywood lifestyle of the time period that was marked by the phrase “sex, drugs, and rock-n-roll.” I honestly believe that early on in Bill’s career, he was introduced to and rolled with a crew that participated in that lifestyle.
I also think drugged up girls was his “thing,” like S&M or other fetishes people have, and it became a regular part of his sexual routine. Initially, it probably began as a party thing, but eventually became the norm. Over time, I think Cosby got arrogant and lazy. By arrogance I mean that he assumed that he was “The Great Cosby” and anyone would give it to him, which is why we hear so many people say, “he didn’t have to take it,” but that’s all the more reason he may have actually taken advantage of some women. So many said yes, he probably could not fathom anyone telling him “no.” As far as lazy, I believe it went hand and hand with his arrogance, pills were part of his version of foreplay, he just stopped asking and assumed that everyone wanted pills. It sort of like when the man used to spend time getting a woman worked up, but now he just goes straight for the sex.
Do I think 90% of those women would have given Cosby the a$$ if he asked? I certainly do…but like most men, once he got used to getting the a$$ on the regular, he skipped the foreplay and went straight for the cookies! My bet is that he got away with it for all of those years because the women went to his room for some exchange, but they did not get the exchange the way they wanted it (which was their choice as women) so they settles to avoid the embarrassment of having to explain why they went to his room, knowing he was married, at obscene times of night. They took the checks and made it all go away. Was Cosby wrong? NO doubt, no excuse…just pay for what you want how you want and be done. There are no shortage of women who would have happily participated for much less with no drama.
Bill Cosby is going to catch hell for the rest of his life deservedly so. White people are going to pick his bones clean, so my question is, why do Black people need to participate? Right now they are trying to remove Bill Cosby’s legacy, but if they do where will that leave us a people? You see White American can’t afford to let Bill Cosby get another run in our living rooms. The last time he did that, he had all of America viewing itself through the lens of a successful Black family. HE had White people wanting to be Black.
Bill Cosby made the entire country recognize that #blacklivesmatter before there was a such thing as a hashtag. During the era of the Cosby Show, White people would have envisioned Trayvon Martin as Theo Huxtable. It would not have been so easy to dismiss his murder. Bill Cosby made the Black family human. Not to mention all the money, resources, and inspiration he has provided for Black people. Think about how many of us saw ourselves in college because of A different World. Cosby created A Different World for Black people in America. Remember that before you join the lynch mob.
Bill Cosby has done wrong, and he will pay for it…but he has given so much to Black America, do we need to stand in line for a pound of flesh too?